As I was going about my day I thought of a solution to the issues you're been having with your free servers. I read on one of the threads that the problem had to do with the server resetting every time there was a new member, and when the server restarted the config file was to large to handle. The person who submitted this said by adding more servers it would solve the problem. Instead of adding new physical servers why not add a bunch of virtual servers. You can use VirtualBox (http://www.virtualbox.org/) for free if you compile the open source version. This wouldn't solve all of your issues, but it would stop apache from crashing. I'd be glad to help if you need it.
If anyone else has an idea for solving the crashes, please post them below.
If anyone else has an idea for solving the crashes, please post them below.