found it, it was indeed being e-mailed, but to the registrant and the details were all still at default, i.e support@x10hosting. I changed the registrant details to my own and resent the epp and got the code. Now for confirmation my new host has e-mailed the registrant and admin details, but i only changed registrant details not admin aswell. So now just waiting on support@x10hosting to authorise/confirm the transfer